Something to think about

Gambling addicts don't keep playing because they like the feeling when
they win,

so much as they hope to win to get rid of the feeling that comes when
they lose.

Something to think about

Gambling addicts don't keep playing because they like the feeling when
they win,

so much as they hope to win to get rid of the feeling that comes when
they lose.

Wisdom of the Rooms

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Quote of the Week

"Anger is one letter away from Danger."

When I came into the program I was so angry, but I didn't realize how much. For years I had used drugs and alcohol to numb these feelings, to manage and hide them. When these were taken away, my anger quickly turned to rage, and I soon found that I had turned much of this rage inward. In fact today I still believe that a core characteristic of alcoholism is self-loathing.

Thank God for the Steps. By working the 12 Steps I learned to forgive others and myself, take responsibility for my part, and I learned how to surrender to a Higher Power. Slowly I began to release a lot of the shame and resentment that made up a lot of my rage.

But I still get angry sometimes. And these days I've learned that when I do get angry, I'm still in danger of turning it inward and acting in self-destructive ways. I'm quick to isolate and grow more depressed, to tell someone off and create resentments, or even to eat too much and go into self-loathing. Thankfully today I've learned to acknowledge and deal with my anger before it turns into rage.

Today I realize that anger is one letter away from danger.

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Quote of the Week

"Anger and resentment are masks for fear."

When I came into the program, I was pretty angry. With the alcohol and drugs gone, I very quickly got in touch with my feelings, and for me that meant my anger quickly turned into rage. Oh, and resentments - I had a lot of those as well. Without having developed the spiritual tools to deal with my feelings yet, I was pretty miserable.

As I began working my way through the program, I learned in the twelve and twelve that we were driven by a hundred forms of self centered fear. After doing a thorough 4th step that included a fear inventory, I found I was driven by way more than just a hundred! It took years, though, for me to realize the connection between my fears and the anger and resentment I felt.

Today I not only see the connection, but I feel it all the time. In fact, today I know that whenever I'm feeling uncomfortable, impatient, quick to snap at people, or just generally irritable, I'm usually in fear of something. And, again, the twelve and twelve tells me it's usually that I'm afraid of losing something or of not getting something I demand. The good news is that today I have a solution. Today, when I'm feeling angry or resentful, I stop and ask myself what I'm afraid of. Doing this allows me to take the mask off my fears and that always leads me to a solution.

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ALL SUCCESS STARTS WITH BEGINNING

Everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were.
There are opportunities all around you.

To reach your goal or to attain success, you don't need to know
all of the answers in advance.
But you do need to have a clear idea of your goal.

Don't procrastinate when faced with difficult problems.
Break those problems into parts, and handle one part at a time.
Develop tendencies toward action.
Break your big plan into small steps and take the first step right away.
You can make something happen, right now.

A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. Take it..




THE DAILY GURU

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The Top 10 Ways to Design Your Destiny

The Top 10 Ways to Design Your Destiny 1. Decide you can do it. You already are. Every decision you make every day makes YOU! Awaken to this and drive your destiny. 2. Energise your desires. And be energised by them. Your desires allied with your decisions make miracles happen. 3. Follow your intuition. Let your intuition surprise you, and lead you in some unexpected directions as you... 4. Take the lead in your life. You ARE the champion in your circle. Step up and claim your title. Your life influences people, whether you want it to or not. Be the winner that lights their lives. 5. Make action your passion. "Just do it." 6. Evaluate the invaluable -- Your Values. In knowing your values you know yourself. They are what drive you, what you drive, and how you handle the road of your life. 7. Inform your dedication. Just like your values, you choose 'em. What do you want to make happen in the world? Why do you want it? Give yourself the gift of clear focus - and taste the sweetness of dedication made evident. 8. Balance your beliefs... With your focus, values and goals. Every belief can serve you easily or challenge you to grow - give yourself a great mix and watch the party of your life unfold. 9. Enhance your heart, For designing your destiny is most effective with a big heart in mind. 10. Develop your devotion... To that which really matters to you. Designing your destiny is fun for its own sake for five minutes. What is your life really about? Submitted by Elizabeth Mullen, who can be reached at em@cornerstonecoaching.com, or visited on the web at http://www.cornerstonecoaching.com © 2001 CoachVille.

The Top 10 Great Life Skills to Have, to Use and Improve It takes a lot of skills to negotiate through life. Many of them we pick up along the way, others we need to develop, and some we just need to polish a little bit. Here are a few life skills to consider getting, using, or practicing in your life... 1. Listening 2. Giving compliments 3. Accepting compliments 4. Thinking positive 5. Saying "No" 6. Laughing 7. Planning 8. Asking questions 9. Reading 10. Exercising Submitted by Jim Allen, who can be reached at Jim@CoachJim.com, or visited on the web at http://www.CoachJim.com © 2001 CoachVille.

Top ten beliefs to help you create the work you were born to do. 1. You can find what you love and earn money from it. 2. You can change your attitude and your circumstances. 3. Your inspiration and love can lead to paid work or a great job. 4. You can be authentic and real, and be successful. 5. The purpose of work is to find and give expression to the best of you, and work can be easy and natural. 6. Life supports you when you find your heart, love and passion, and the intelligence inside you will handle many of the details. 7. You can bring more and more of yourself to your work. 8. You have more creativity and resources inside you than you ever imagined. 9. It is safe to be successful, be your best self and shine your light. 10. You are good enough, have lots of gifts, skills and talents and deserve success

How to simplify your Life In this very fast paced world, it seems impossible to simplify our lives. But think about this, how much time and energy do you waste on the unnecessary? How much time do you waste because you can't find things? How much energy do you waste telling yourself all the things you should do? How much time do you spend having fun? We often make life much more complicated than it needs to be and somehow we have convinced ourselves that our lives must be filled to max. We over schedule our lives, and then wonder why we feel dissatisfied. In turn, we end up spending the majority of our time on the things that don't matter to us. Here are some strategies to help you weed out the unnecessary and simplify, simplify, simplify. 1. Extend your boundaries. It is okay to say no. If you are not comfortable committing to a task, or something doesn't feel right to you, then don't do it. We often get in trouble because we ignore our gut feelings, and most of the time it leads us down the wrong path. 2. Drop your to-dos. Drop the to-dos that have been on your list for a couple of months. Get rid of those tasks that you keep telling yourself that you will get done but you always find something more interesting/important to do. If you have not done them by now, they are not important and draining your energy. 3. Remove clutter. How much time do you waste looking for things? Do you have stuff that you need to get rid of? The more cluttered your space is, the more stressed you are going to feel. When you remove clutter, get rid of stuff that you no longer need, and give objects a home, your life will run more smoothly. In addition, you will create a space for new things to enter your life. 4. Develop your values. Determine what your values are and live to those values. We often feel conflicted because how we are living is out of sync with our values. For example, if your number one value is family and your job requires you to work 65 hours a week is it any wonder that you feel unsettled and unhappy? When you're clear about what is important to you, it will be easier to let go of things that don't fit. 5. Examine your beliefs. What are your core beliefs? Some of your beliefs may be limiting your ability to let go of tasks and projects that don't add value. If you believe that you create value by being busy, it is much harder to let go of tasks. If you believe that the only way to make money is to work hard, then you will always work hard. Remember, we look for circumstances in our lives to reinforce what we believe. 6. Create priorities. Determine the 1 or 2 things you want to accomplish within the next year for your career/business, home life, relationships, and self. Work only to those priorities. If your goal is to develop a new income generating product line, that is where you should spend significant time focusing your attention. It is very easy to get distracted from our priorities, because there is so much information out there that inspires our interest. How often do you get diverted to other projects and never finish what you were originally working? What happens? The year goes by and you did not accomplish any of your objectives. When new ideas do excite us, get an idea notebook and write all of your new ideas down for future projects. One note, if you find yourself working on everything but your stated priorities, it may be time to reexamine what you think you want. 7. Give yourself permission to relax. We live in a culture that has taught us that relaxing is the equivalent to being lazy so we have created lives that are bursting at the seams and don't give us time to think. There is another way, give yourself permission to relax. Revel in doing nothing. Give yourself time to just think and do nothing. You will be amazed at all the new and interesting discoveries that come to you. 8. If you're struggling, let it go. If something is a real struggle, or you can't come up with a solution, drop it for awhile. Giving yourself a mental break will allow your brain to rest and therefore create new ideas. Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night and had an aha? This happens for two reasons, 1) because you are relaxed, and 2) because you were not trying to direct your brain's thoughts. Giving yourself a mental break from a challenge is a great way to consciously create that aha. 9. Take care of yourself. Isn't it funny that we take better care of our cars than our bodies? Take care of your body and mind. Eat things that bring you a sense of energy and lightness. Eat to fuel your body. Exercise your body to reduce stress and clear your mind. Exercise your brain with new activities. This will go a long way in helping you feel more calm and relaxed. 10. Have fun. Why is it so hard for us to have fun? Make time each week to do something that brings you joy. Do something completely silly. Have fun with yourself. Laugh. Forget all the other stuff for awhile and just have fun. You will feel a whole lot better. This piece was originally submitted by Jennifer Ottolino, Personal & Professional Coach, who can be reached at Jen@coachjen.com, or at www.coachjen.com © 2000-2002 by Thomas J. Leonard.