Getting Past Gambling

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A place to come and share experiences, to find support and strength, for those of us who are putting gambling behind us and finding new exciting and happier ways to live our lives.
" You never achieve real success unless you like what you are doing."
*Dale Carnegie {1888-1955 American Author & Achievement Expert}


ARE YOU GAMBLING WITH....
... the feelings of those you love most?
... with your family's security and happiness?
... with the roof over your children's heads?
... with money that you can't afford to lose?
... with the trust that your partner/parents/children/friends have in you?
.... with your future?


ASK YOURSELF THESE QUESTIONS TO SEE IF YOU ARE AT RISK:.....
Do you think about gambling every day?
Do you chase your losses?
Do you feel depressed because of your gambling?
Do you hide your gambling from people close to you?
Do you borrow money so you can gamble?
Do you argue with family or friends over money or gambling?
Do you often gamble until your last dollar is gone?
Do you let bills go unpaid because you use the money for gambling?
Do you find that you are not talking honestly to anyone about how often or how much you spend on gambling?

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you may have a problem.

Tell others about your problem and decision.
It is easier to overcome your problem if you have some support.
Take financial control.
Become aware of the situations that have turned your gambling into a problem.
For example, when you are bored, angry, have some spare cash, feeling lucky or thinking about losses.
Think about your thinking.
How you think about your gambling will strongly influence how you act.

Money Management.
To gain perspective on the value of money, try to reorganise your finances.
For example, pay bills by direct debit, have your partner collect your wages and leave the credit cards at home when you go out.

Organise your time.
When gambling becomes a problem, it takes up may hours of the week.
Many gamblers feel a "gap" when they reduce their gambling time. Try socialising or taking up a hobby or sport.

Relaxation is important.
A lot of problem gamblers are intense about many areas of their lives.
Learning to relax is one way of overcoming the initial strong desire to return to gambling.

Saying positive things to yourself can determine how you feel and act.
It requires a deliberate effort to overcome negative self-talk.
Try to remember the good things about not betting.

Make a commitment to be honest to yourself and others.
If relationships have broken down due to dishonesty make a big effort to be totally honest in the future.

Remember that it sometimes takes a few efforts to reach your goal.

KEEP FOCUSSED ON YOUR SUCCESSES.

Tuesday, August 29, 2006

DAILY GURU

TO CHOOSE TIME IS TO SAVE TIME

You always have enough time if you will but use it wisely.

Your dilemma goes deeper than having a shortage of time, it's basically a problem of priorities.
Most people leave undone those things that should be done, while they do things that they shouldn't be doing.


Set priorities for your goals.

A major part of successful living lies in your ability to put first things first.

Most major goals are not achieved because people put second things first.

Is what you're doing getting you closer to your objectives?

Anything that is wasted effort represents wasted time.

Don't serve time; make time serve you.


©2006 by Max Steingart

Sunday, August 20, 2006

DAILY GURU

THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS NO CHANCE

Don't think about the things you can't do.
Think about the things you can do.
No matter what the level of your ability is, you have more potential than you can ever develop in a lifetime.
You have powers you never dreamed of.
You can do things you never thought you could do.
There are no limitations to what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.
Your range of available choices right now is limitless.
Look at things as they can be.
Never say never.



©2006 by Max Steingart
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Thursday, August 17, 2006

DAILY GURU

YOU CANNOT FAIL WITH A PLAN

Wanting success isn't sufficient enough to get it.
You have to ask yourself,
"What am I going to do to get the things I want?"
Your problem is how to bridge the gap which exists between where you are now and the goal you intend to reach.
You cannot fail with a definite step by step plan, because each step carries you along to the next step, like a track.
All you need is the plan, the road map,
and the courage to press on to your destination.
You cannot get lost on a straight road.


©2006 by Max Steingart
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Wednesday, August 16, 2006

DAILY GURU

YOU ONLY GET TO KEEP WHAT YOU GIVE AWAY

It's a universal law: You have to give before you get.
You must plant your seeds before you reap the harvest.
The more you sow, the more you will reap.
In giving to others, you will find yourself blessed.
The law works to give you back more than you have sown.
The giver's harvest is always full.
Those that obtain have little.
Those who scatter have much.
Nature does not give to those who will not spend.



©2006 by Max Steingart
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Tuesday, August 15, 2006

DAILY GURU

A MOUNTAIN IS CLIMBED ONE STEP AT A TIME

To attain success or to reach your goal, don't worry about having all the answers in advance.
You just need to have a clear idea of your goal and move toward it.
Everyone who got where they are had to begin where they were.
Your opportunity for success is right in front of you.
Don't procrastinate when faced with a difficult problem.
Break your problems into parts and handle one part at a time.
Develop a tendency toward action.
You can make something happen today.
Break your big plan for success into small steps and take the first step right away.
Success starts with beginning.



©2006 by Max Steingart
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Monday, August 14, 2006

DAILY GURU

ACCEPT CHANGE WITH A SMILE

Sooner or later you'll experience a crisis in your life, and how you meet it will determine your future happiness and success.
Since the beginning of time,
everyone has been called upon to meet such a crisis.
A closer look will show you that most 'crisis situations'
are opportunities to either advance or stay where you are.
In fact, most changes in your life will take place out of either 'inspiration' or 'desperation.'
Whatever comes your way,
give it meaning and transform it into something of value.
Your personal growth is the process of responding positively to change.
A precious stone cannot be polished without friction, nor humanity perfected without trials.



©2006 by Max Steingart
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DAILY GURU

Focus on what you want

"A good intention clothes itself with power."
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson


Our minds are incredibly powerful. We put that power to work for us when we consciously set an intention to be or do something. Get into the practice of consciously setting an intention for every activity in which you are involved.
Your intention might support efficiency – for example, to complete a job or project by a specific time. Your intention might support your personal growth, e.g., to undertake a task that scares you. Or it might support more soul connection, e.g., to see beauty in the chaos of your day.
When we make an effort to set an intention, no matter how trivial it may appear, we are taking the time to choose what we want for ourselves. And clearly, this is essential for our growth – to actively, thoughtfully choose what we want for ourselves.


"By becoming a conscious choice-maker, you begin to generate actions that are evolutionary for you."
-- Deepak Chopra

Sunday, August 13, 2006

DAILY GURU

THE KEY TO YOUR SUCCESS IS DESIRE

Reality forms around your commitment to succeed.
Your desires will in time externalize themselves into concrete fact.
If you're willing to pay the price, any of your circumstances will change.
If you want something badly enough, you're sure to get it.
Obstacles don't matter very much.
Pain or other circumstances can be there.
But, if you want something badly enough, you'll find a way to get it done.
You only have to love a thing greatly to get it.
Desire is the fire of life.



©2006 by Max Steingart
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